The one with the VBAC….

This next blog comes from the lovely Shona – after a c-section in 2013, find out how she got on in 2017 when a new little man entered their world…….

In 2013 my partner and I were expecting our first child. Nearing the end of the pregnancy we went to our local birth Unit for the tour. After looking around, I immediately wanted the birth to take place there. I remember walking around thinking “this is like a posh hotel” the rooms if I remember didn’t even have beds in! It was like an adult size soft play centre! And I loved the mood lighting and the whole place felt so relaxed and calm. Even a little guest book on a table in the corridor!

We went in for a routine 36 appointment and a midwife had a feel round on the bump. Then she got the Doppler on it with a slight concern look. They did a scan and told me Baby was in fact breech! So we sat down for a chat where I was told I would need a Caesarean. They said I could have an ECV where they could try and manipulate the baby into turning and they said there was a 50% chance of baby turning and if it worked there was also a chance of baby going back to breech position.

At this point I was quite overwhelmed by everything, as soon as I stepped out the hospital I cried A LOT! The thought of having an operation, the not being able to have a natural labour. I finally accepted that I was having a caesarian and I started to feel excited.

I had a pre op appointment and when I was 39 weeks exactly on 28 May 2013 we went to hospital and I had a scan which confirmed baby was still breech. So we waited in a room with two other couples and we were last to have the section. Our little girl Ruby arrived safely and the recovery went really well. I didn’t have any other kids to look after so it was easy to be able to rest and take it easy.

Then in November 2016 we found out we were expecting baby No.2 – so exciting! After the 12 week scan I had a consultation appointment and a chat about my options, I said I’d like a VBAC and they were supportive with my decision and explained the risks involved about 1/200 chance of scar rupture. But the option was there to have either. Which was the hardest because I didn’t want an option, I needed someone to tell me what to do!

So I started googling information on vbacs, and reading books. Educating myself on the risks, and in comparison it wasn’t much different to risks with a natural labour. I then went on YouTube videos of people’s vbac stories. Which inspired me and helped me so much in feeling better about it all.

So many thoughts going round my mind like “what if I go into labour and complications happen ending in a section anyway?!” “What if I get to 41 WKS and I’m more swayed to avoiding being induced?!” “What am I going to do if I have an elective section again?!”

Then one evening I was spotting a little. I rang triage for a piece of mind and she said it sounds like my plug coming away. However later when I stood up I did have a small gush feeling, and I was constantly getting this mucus type fluid keep coming. I Rang triage again! I was getting the odd tightenings then with this mucus. She said when I was getting tightenings/pains every 10mins then to ring up and head over.

I was getting pains every 30 mins. So I expected to just be at home all night before anything got really going. My thoughts at this time, because I had never experienced this before, it felt like it wasn’t real and it was all in my head. At 7;50pm I started jotting down the times of these tightenings and at 8:30 I realised they were every 5 minutes. It didn’t feel real! I called triage and another lady spoke to me this time. She asked if I could hold on at home but it was getting uncomfortable now when I was getting a contraction. She said I might be sent home but I wanted to go over and get checked out at least.

I was checked over and my waters had definitely gone. There was meconium in them. Which she thinks was old, where the baby had a trial poop! And at this point I was 1-2cm dilated. This was around 11pm.
I said to my partner I don’t think I could do this, I’m only 1-2cm and it’s hurting so much already, I could see myself asking for an epidural!!

Around midnight I was taken into a delivery room. It was so much cooler, nice and dark with a mood lighting.
The contractions got stronger and stronger and I was on the bed just literally wriggling around using the gas and air. The midwife with me was brilliant and we joked about her wanting to deliver the baby before her shift finished in the morning! Then at about 3:15 am and I was given diamorphine which was injected in my thigh. Again WOW! That stuff was even better. I was able to rest inbetween contractions now.

About 3:30am I had a canula put in my hand. Which I knew I would because of having the section previously and just in case there was any problems. At this point I was getting so much pressure with the contractions.

About 3:40am I was checked and I was 7cm now. And around 3:55am they put a clip on baby’s head to monitor him. I remember at this point the midwife telling me how well I was doing although I was quite sleepy between contractions.

It wasn’t so much painful at this point now, it was trying not to push everytime I had a contraction because the pressure was unbelievable. Trying to ride through that was hard, because all I wanted to do was push!

But then at 05:57am our little boy was born!! He was placed straight on me and I couldn’t stop saying “OMG I did it” that feeling was just incredible!! And probably the best feeling of my life. Getting to hold him straight away in my arms. My partner cut the cord and did skin to skin.

I cannot stress enough, to those thinking of having a VBAC then DO IT! If I were to choose, having a vagjnal birth was the best thing ever!

Educate yourself on the pros and cons! As soon as I started watching videos, I wanted to do a Vlog while I was still pregnant and another one after with the result! But it was too late when I was thinking of doing it, so have done a blog instead of my story to hopefully help inspire others!!

I was so happy it worked out and little things like being able to get straight in the shower and go out and about and do stuff. It was an amazing experience and I’m so glad I didn’t talk myself out of it and went for another caesarean “just in case”

Everyone needs a bit of Shona’s positivity in their life!

The one with the planned c-section….

So our topic this month is all things Caesarean section – and to kick start it here is a lovely blog from one of our Baby Journey Mums (we are going to call her Mrs Wonderful as she’d like to remain anonymous!) So put your feet up for 10 minutes with a cuppa and enjoy….

“The journey to motherhood for my husband and I was to say the least a tough and emotional one…. after 8 years of trying to have a baby, we’d encountered numerous miscarriages, surgical procedures and plenty of heartache. We decided that enough was enough so opted for IVF as the way forward for us. When we finally received a positive pregnancy test after our first round and we couldn’t have been happier! Our dream of becoming parents was a step closer… we still had a long way to go but it was a very very positive start! I won’t bore you with the details but the pregnancy itself was as you’d expect filled with worry, sickness and lots of surreal moments!
Fast forward to 38 weeks and we had a routine consultant visit. What I did not expect at this visit was to come away with a C-Section date due to a breach baby! I did not have any preconceived plans… in a strange kind of a way, I lived each day at a time, appreciating every moment and not wanting to look too far ahead. So anyway… the day arrived, bags packed and sunglasses on! From start to finish the whole experience was incredibly surreal. Our consultant finished our consultation by saying, ‘so let’s go and meet your baby!’ That phrase will stick with me forever! The actual procedure itself went well and the sheer joy when we met our little miracle was beyond any words or experience I could ever explain!
You hear lots of things about feeding being difficult after a C-Section, for us this wasn’t the case but I know that for many regardless of birth type this can be so tough.
Hours past and we were on the ward. I found being on the ward the toughest part, the staff were exceptional but stretched to capacity and often if you rang the bell for assistance… you’d be waiting about 20 minutes. There was something illogical about the over night arrangement, my husband had to leave even though I physically couldn’t move to help my baby. It just demonstrated the immense pressure our NHS is under. The care from professionals, when we received it was faultless. We ended up staying in hospital for two nights and if I’m honest, I couldn’t wait to leave and get home to home comforts. Although there were a few negatives with the hospital experience, overall the experience was great!
At home, recovery was not as bad as I’d thought it would be. I was able to drive sooner than I’d thought and was up and about the day after the actual procedure.
The C-Section experience itself was such a positive one… so much so, that I am about 90% sure I will have another one in a few months time when I am due to have our second child (can’t believe I’m writing this… it happened naturally!!!)

So if you are in the position of knowing you are having a C-Section or end up having an emergency one, here are some top tips:
1️⃣ For hospital, pack a night dress rather than PJs as you don’t want anything that will come in contact with your scar. Have the same in mind for any clothes you wear for the weeks to follow.
2️⃣ Take Spa Tone (or similar iron supplement) you loose a lot of blood during a C-Section and this will help replenish your blood cells.
3️⃣ Coconut oil for your scar is great.
4️⃣ Skip if you don’t like poo talk… if you find yourself not having done a poo for around 2/3 days. I didn’t even have this on the radar but it ended up being 6 days and I can honestly tell you that when I finally did, I cried and the pain was worse than any C-Section pain. Just let your midwife know and they’ll give you a pessary to insert up your bum!
5️⃣ Probiotics are a must… your gut linings are interfered with after you have an anaesthetic so fill yourself up with yoghurts. A dear friend of mine stocked me up on these in a Hospital Survival Kit!
6️⃣ Slippers and a thin dressing gown – it’s so so hot in the hospital so thin cotton material is a must.
7️⃣ It’s common after a C-Section to have lots of trapped air between shoulders and neck. Lots of massages required!
8️⃣ Be kind to yourself and I mean really kind. You will have just been through a massive operation and then be thrown in to looking after a little human and all that that entails… Good luck!”

Waiting for the sunbeams to come……

I first became a Mummy over 10 years ago….

Blimey, just typing that makes me feel old. However all the emotions that come with being pregnant, then becoming a new parent are still very fresh in my mind. As if it all happened yesterday. Like most Mums, I can recall my birth stories (all 3 of them) with ease, it’s mixed feelings knowing that I wont ever do it again.

When I was pregnant with Lottie, my now lovely vibrant and spirited 10 year old daughter. I had been a midwife for 5 years already. I attended antenatal classes, looking back this was probably where the embers of the Baby Journey were lit. But that’s another blog entirely….

I felt physically and mentally ready for the challenge of becoming a Mum, I was excited and enjoyed all the prep work in packing bags, buying tiny baby clothes and painting the nursery. When my due date came and the labour started, my straight forward labour unfolded and Lottie arrived in the early hours of the 3rd August 2007. No horror story to be told I’m afraid….

My husband Jim was wonderful, he encouraged me, cracked inappropriate jokes and made me smile. My lovely Mum was the perfect balance of being kind & firm, keeping everyone fed with items from the biggest labour picnic I’ve ever seen to date. The cherry on the top of my labour cake was having my beloved Hannah there. We’d become firm friends over the years, there had been many wine fuelled conversations in pubs (prior to the pregnancy I may add!) when we smiled at the thought of delivering each other’s babies. I still owe her a labour…….

At the point at which Lottie was placed upon my chest, I vividly remember these HUGE eyes looking up at me. I felt lots of things at that point in time. The biggest feeling was utter relief that it was all done. I had achieved what I had only seen other women do until that point. I had survived. I was a Mummy. What was I going to do now? The lady on the front cover of the JoJoMaman Bebe magazine that I had packed in my labour bag, appeared to have sun beams coming out of every orifice…….. where were mine?

All I could do after the birth was vomit into a paper bowl, wobbly my way out to the shower and worry about how I was ever going to poo again? Being British, a cup of tea and some amazing NHS toast would fix me up and then surely the sun beams would come. Right?

Jim carefully strapped Lottie into her car seat, she looked a lot like a little boiled potato with a slightly angry face. We took her home. Family and friends swamped our house with tears of joy and lots of pink outfits and cards. Champagne corks popped. But still no sunbeams. I felt numb. Tired. Anxious. Vacant is a good way to describe it looking back.

Like a robot I fed her, changed her and cuddled her. Feeling like maybe I’d made a mistake at times. Craving my ‘old life’ at times. Was I going to be the worst Mum ever?

Then when she was 2 weeks old I was changing her before a bath in the nursery when I decided to play a song for us both. It was Takes That’s ‘Rule the World’ and all of a sudden I was holding her close, dancing with her and the tears were streaming down my face. I felt this incredible need to keep her safe, hold her little body next to mine and never let her go. To always be there for her, keeping her safe and to love her as much as I could. I sobbed and sobbed until there was no tears left.

The sunbeams had arrived.

Interestingly the exact same events unfolded after my 2 boys were born too. The sunbeams took a while to come. But I knew that they would. I just took my time.

So if you feel numb, wobbly and a bit confused after birth. It’s ok. Take your time. Be nice to yourself. You can talk to your loved ones about it. Or write it down.

You could even try a song. I still can’t listen to that song without tears appearing.

Big hugs, Jules x

Babies & the Power of Love

Vicky & Alice from Babies in Bloom are guest bloggers for us this month, talking all about love…..

The month of February is all about love; much like motherhood!  We, at Babies in Bloom Cheltenham, have the pleasure of giving this topic food for thought.  And let’s face it, on a list of life’s important subjects, you can’t really beat ‘Love’.

Of course, all mothers love their children.  A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world.  And it is because of this that motherhood has the greatest potential influence in human life.

It’s pretty obvious that babies require love.  But did you know that their physical development actually needs it?

Amazingly, 80% of a baby’s brains develops in their first three years, so the early experiences a baby has during this time can actually sculpt the structure of their brain to build the foundations for their future.  This initial rapid growth is essentially a wiring process, where the connections that are stimulated flourish, and those that aren’t wither away.  Research shows a lack of love can result in lower production of our growth hormones.  Contrarily, emotional warmth causes release of the body’s love hormones, which stimulate growth!

So how can we ensure babies’ early experiences are positive ones?  You guessed it – Love!

Babies’ emotional environments are the most important influence on their brain development, so creating a positive atmosphere filled with love is essential.  From birth, babies instinctively seek out attachments with their mothers.  It’s no coincidence that the distance they’re able to see is from their position of feeding to their mother’s eyes, and that they’re able to recognise their mother’s smell and voice as soon as they’re born.

Babies are born ready to interact, so responding with love is key.  For example, from the very start, a baby will signal that they’re hungry, their mother responds by offering milk, and the baby indicates their contentment by sucking and settling.  Going forwards, this communication is essential for babies’ cognitive development, such as learning to talk.  When a baby babbles, their mother’s repetition of these sounds and turning them into recognisable words will eventually give meaning to their baby’s noises.

This responsiveness is also necessary for babies’ emotional development.  Babies aren’t born contented and confident.  They need their mothers to help them recognise and manage their own emotions.  Babies are full of powerful feelings, often associated with physical sensations.  When they project these overwhelming emotions, they need their mothers to make sense of them with a calm and sensitive response such as, ‘Oh dear, what’s the matter?  Maybe it’s your tummy’.  If a panicky feeling by a baby is received with a panicky response by a mother, such as, ‘I don’t know what you want!’, the baby won’t learn to understand the feeling themselves.

These are a few of the basics.  Our postnatal course explores this topic in more depth, looking into areas such as how babies uses their six main states of consciousness to guide their mothers in their care-giving, and what strategies babies use to console themselves (an awareness of which can enable mothers to allow their babies the opportunity to soothe themselves, helping them to develop resilience to adapt better to stress in the future) – in addition to all those other important topics mothers with new babies need to know about!

To summarise, early experiences really do matter and can shape the architecture of a baby’s brain; And the secret ingredient to creating the best start possible…..is Love!

“I believe in love at first sight, because I’ve been loving my mother since I opened my eyes.”

The one at the Cheltenham Birth Centre….

Here at The Baby Journey we love an honest and empowering birth story. So to kick off the month of February, here is the story about the arrival of a beautiful boy called Rory, from his Mum Kylie……..

I am a first time mum. I had all the hopes, fears and expectations that go along with that. I dared to hope I might have the ‘good birth’ but also had a strong dose of reality of what a first time labour might be like. I prepared as best I could…I went to pregnancy yoga (lotusbud yoga), I did the Baby Journey Antenatal classes, and I bounced on my ball at home whenever I could 😂 but most of all I remained relaxed and calm about what was to come!
On August 12th 2017 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy called Rory weighing 7lbs 13oz. I started contracting at about midday and arrived at Cheltenham Aveta Birth Centre at 18.45 in advanced labour. I was shown straight to a pool room, given the gas and air and helped into a lovely warm pool. But most of all….I was greeted with kindness,love and warmth by the staff and there was no internal examination to endure or twenty questions! They are the experts in normality and they knew that Rory was on his way without having to perform checks to ‘make sure’. After all first labours are always long aren’t they!!? 😜
Rory was born within 2 hours of arriving, in the birthing pool. My husband was treated with respect and the same care was extended to him. He was not a ‘spare part’.
We then spent time getting to know our son while the staff continued to care for us all and we left the following morning to begin our lives as a family of 3.
If you are lucky enough to experience a positive birth like I did and many others do, then please shout it from the rooftops, tell everyone you know (especially other pregnant mums) because the fear of birth and the shame in feeling like you had an ‘easy birth’ and so don’t have the right to share your story is what is perpetuating the fear for others. Trust me it wasn’t ‘easy’ but it wasn’t traumatic and it wasn’t horrendous and it wasn’t ‘something you have to just get through’. It was the most amazing, intense, life-changing moment of my life.
And definitely worth it!!

Making time for me….

Making time for me is not something that we find mothers do very well.

To be honest we don’t do it well ourselves, and we don’t know many mummies who prioritise themselves (actually no, can’t think of any). Especially when our little ones are little. When we have a baby who wants to be held, or rocked, or jiggled, or fed. When we have little mouths to feed, faces to wipe, bottoms to clean, tiny clothes to wash (again).

There’s always something that your family needs that seems more important than that something you wanted. A soak in the bath. A few chapters of your book. A snuggle up with a magazine. A nap. A phone call with a friend. A class at the gym. An early night. A hair cut. A run. A baking session. A manicure. A swim. A craft session. A catch up on the news. A massage. Whatever that thing is that restores you, that recharges your spirit and decompresses you again so that you can be you. The best version of you, not the slightly ratty, frazzled, stretched to the max you. Somehow it seems selfish, we feel guilty, we think something else deserves that time more. It feels indulgent, somewhere we feel like we don’t deserve it and we should give that time to something else. Someone else.

It’s bonkers. It doesn’t make any sense, we all know that we have to look after ourselves. We’ve all seen the quotes “you can’t pour from an empty cup”, “self-care is not selfish”…. but there’s a little goblin of self-doubt in us that keeps us pushing ourselves to the bottom of the list.

So, here we are in mid January, it’s rainy and grey and payday is dragging its heels. We challenge you to do something this week for you, and try to keep doing it every week from now on. Don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t pan out some weeks. Just try again.

Ask your partner to support you, they love you and they want you to feel good, and they need you to look after yourself as well as you look after everyone else.

We promise to do it too. We know we feel better for it. And our families feel better for that. x

Happy New Year, Hello 2018!

So here we all are on New Year’s Eve, thinking back over the year behind us, and thinking forward to the year ahead.

2017 has been a year of amazing new relationships for The Baby Journey, and we are feeling very lucky to have so many wonderful people around us.

We’ve taught 14 antenatal courses this year, to over 500 parents-to-be, and in addition to our four-week antenatal course have launched our refresher course for those who have already got little ones.

The feedback from you all is humbling (confession: there’s often a little tear from us when we read it). Words don’t quite do it justice how moved and utterly delighted to the core we are when you take the time to tell us that The Baby Journey has helped you feel more confident as you start your adventure in Parentland. We have very special archives of the beautiful messages, birth stories, photos, reunions, birthday parties, first days at school and arrivals of new baby brothers and sisters which are very precious to us.

THANK YOU to all of you, our clients, for believing in us, taking a chance on an independent local business, and sharing your feedback with us and those you love. We are eternally grateful to you all. We will never stop trying to give you what you need, listen to what you ask for, and putting you at the heart of everything we are.

As well as our wonderful clients we are lucky to have a brilliant little team, and the start of the year saw a new midwife instructor join our happy little band of 3, and soon The Baby Journey family had gone from Hannah, Jules and Becca to include our fourth team mate Rosie. A bit like when you have your second child we were worried how our little family would manage with a fourth person in, would we all get on, would Rosie like us, would we like her, would our clients like her?

Well, we need never have given it a second thought as, just like when you have your second baby, straight away it was as if she’d always been part of the gang; we think she’s fabulous, and so do our clients. We could not be more proud of our amazing team of Becca and Rosie – these two amazing midwives and all round strong, smart, funny, lovely, positive women bring joy and light to TBJ Towers. Thank you girls for all your hard work, enthusiasm, loyalty, passion and kindness, we love you.

The last 12 months have seen us work with loads of amazing local businesses, and we have exhibited at the Cotswold Baby & Toddler Show; been finalists in the Gloucestershire Families Awards; supported local charities such as Gloucestershire Breastfeeding Support Network and run competitions, giveaways and collaborated with brilliant new and established businesses in Gloucestershire. Thank you for inspiring us, challenging us, supporting us and spurring us on, we are excited to be part of this entrepreneurial community.

We’ve also learnt the hard and powerful lesson that we cannot do it all, and to ask for help from someone who knows better than you is always a good idea. With that in mind we are very pleased to be working with the fabulous Frankie from BossMedia, as well as the very talented Andy from Lost & Found, and the endlessly patient Jon from Oomph, not to mention our most esteemed Martin whose wise words reach far beyond accounting. Thank you to our trusted crack team of go-to experts who have guided, taught, supported and liberated us.

And so, this brings us to our beautiful families, the two men and the five children who stand strong with us, behind us, cheering us on (That’s a husband and kids each, not a strange cult!). Thank you to Luke, Jimmy, Lottie, Charlie, Oscar, Eve & Bertie. These are our tribes who inspired us 6 years ago to create The Baby Journey, and who give us the love of family and parenthood that is the very core of TBJ. We love you beyond the moon and back, thank you for believing in us, and loving us, we love you.

We sign off with a massive HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all – whether you are enjoying your first NYE since your little one arrived (get that pint of water and berocca ready on your bedside table now) or snuggling up under fresh sheets with a glass of milk and a fidgeting bump, imagining who this little person will be and what next year will hold. We wish you a beautiful 2018 full of joy and adventures, we can’t wait to see you all in the new year.

Cheers!

Love Hannah & Jules

 

Neals Yard loveliness

We all get excited buying products for our growing bumps and new babies, many we realise we didn’t really need and some we have no idea how we’d cope without! When it comes to products to put ON our bumps and babies it’s usually best to keep it simple.

As Baby Journey Midwives, we are really big fans of the Seaweed and Arnica foaming bath soak. The healing properties of the arnica and the mineral rich seaweed are the perfect combination for your perineum after birth. It smells amazing and is good for tired muscles during the pregnancy too – so you might need more than one bottle!

During our classes we always look at lower back massage to help ease the aches and pains of late pregnancy and early labour. The NYR soothing massage oil is brilliant for this – so grab your birth partner and get practising. Use a small 10 pence sized amount and warm in your hand, the use small and firm circular motions at the base of the lower back, maybe try some shoulder massage too? Particularly good for easing tensions during those early night feeds.

We actually have 2 lovely consultants from Neal’s Yard Remedies to tell you about a few of the products that are great for both mum and baby, and as luck would have it they currently have a 20% off event running until midnight tomorrow. So if you’d like to order anything from the baby range or indeed any other NYR products, drop them a note telling them we sent you and they’ll also pop a little extra treat in for you too (whoop whoop!)

Over to you Katie, what are the essentials for Baby?

“Newborns need nothing more than NYRs Baby Balm to keep them free from nappy rash. If you like the idea of massaging your baby you can use the Pure Baby Oil.
When they are over 3 months old it’s nice to use the Baby Bath & Shampoo with a gorgeous blend of Chamomile and Lavender so super relaxing for the end of the day and also really good for their skin. You can keep it simple and stick to Baby Balm and Baby Bath & Shampoo. But if you like a barrier cream, they’ve got one of those two and you can be confident it’s full of good stuff. There’s also a Baby Massage Oil with a lovely blend of essential oils for a calming pre-bedtime massage and there’s a lotion too.”

Then Claire, What 3 things couldn’t you live without in your changing bag?

“Whether you are a first time mummy or you are an expanding family, we all need a few top tips for handbag essentials.
Energy remedies to roll – perfect for giving you that little natural energy boost for your pulse points.
The Bee lovely balm – amazing for those dry lips, just a little bit and you feel ready to face the day.
Hand defence spray – A natural, quick drying, gorgeous smelling hand spray – perfect for yours and little toddler hands too. My girls LOVE having this sprayed into their hands before snack and so do I! “

Katie is mum to 3 year old Leo and 6 month old Nina, and Claire is Mum to 4 year old Charlotte and 3 year old Katie. Both are Independent Consultants who work for themselves with NYR Organic, (you might be interested in doing the same, so could ask them about that too).

To contact Katie on FB – https://www.facebook.com/katie.nyr/?hc_ref=ARQtF9FvhL-tabiE_Z6Y7p_UZC7TVwx4i9uN7BQ9d8dvbR0DXHqXXifMc50eOwASCZc Or Insta – https://www.instagram.com/nyro.katiechapman/

To contact Claire on FB – https://www.facebook.com/NYRIndependantConsultantClaireBateman/?hc_ref=ARQTZJKYWjVBpBYILPBVIjCAJcU_j4DCNtxtR35RS8S7KFx4ucBv5MCVCGEVhFhATzg&pnref=story Or Insta https://www.instagram.com/claire_nyro/

Huge thanks to the lovely ladies from NYR for those top tips and product recommendations

Bringing baby home sweet home….

So, it doesn’t matter if your brand spanking new bundle of joy is 6 hours old, or 6 days old – leaving the hospital and heading home can be a big old mix of emotions.
There’s the excitement of finally going home – and then the anxious nerves wondering how you’re going to work it all out…..

So here are some of our thoughts on how to make the process go smoothly:

Car seats – make sure you know how the pesky straps lengthen and shorten. Practice with a teddy/doll before baby comes – ensuring it fits safely in the car. Look to the fire station who offer free car seat safety checks prior to babies arrival.

Painkillers. Make sure you are well covered for the journey home. Take some about an hour before you leave the hospital (if you can) so it’s as comfortable as it can be. Welcome back ibuprofen!

Pillows. If you’ve had a caesarean section, try placing a pillow over your tummy, then place the seat belt over the pillow for extra comfort.

Drive steady – make it a slow, careful and calm journey home. Even little bumps in the road can be painful.You might want to sit in the back with baby just to check on them for the journey home.

Visitors – limit how many people are going to embark on your house when you get finally get home (ideally aim for none!) Allow yourselves some quiet time to get to know this new little person. It makes tuning into their feeding ques and starting to establish feeding a bit easier.

Put the kettle one – make sure you’re well hydrated and you’ve planned for some tasty food – Deliveroo anyone?

Don’t forget the camera, record the moment you bring your little one home and over the threshold of their new family home. Magic!

and relax….. you’ve got this

Meet the team – Becca

As part of our meet the team , here’s 10 Questions with the lovely Becca….

1. Crayon- yellow. Happy colour. Useful for the sun and stars and bright cheery things!

2. 90’s jam- strawberry! 😉
TLC- no scrubs. Used to know all the words and put on shows at break time!!

3. Animal- Dog probably! If had good owner- good walks, comfy bed, lots of cuddles- being loved despite being a pain in the arse sometimes!!

4. Inspiration- Different things! Current book- positive parenting. Buddhist ethos of positivity.

5. Fight- batman- he’s batman ffs! Way cooler than Spider-Man.

6. Crisps- barbecue beef hula hoops!

7. Holiday- langkawi. Truly beautiful and exotic.
Devon is pretty good in good weather too!

8. Best mummy bits- unconditional overwhelming love! Laughter, cuddles, pride and being a family.

9. Worse mummy bits- Tiredness! Mess! Headspace! Constant whining!

10. Mantra- hurry up!!! Feel myself saying it enough to be a mantra.
Or- find a solution! Works quite well in lots of ways.

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